Well, the invitations are out and the RSVPs are (slowly) starting to arrive, and it's beginning to feel like this is actually happening. Our invitations are probably my favourite thing about the entire wedding planning process so far. The portrait was painted by Laura (she has an Etsy shop as well as her blog) and the invitations were designed by my brilliant cousin Jaye as our wedding gift. The wording, meanwhile, was done in the most Janet way possible - by crowd-sourcing opinions on Twitter!
We've narrowed down our readings and asked the family and friends whom we want to be involved to speak (well, I have, I think Thomas has yet to ask his friends. So Mathijis, Tim & Bart, if you happen to be reading this - Thomas has something to ask you!).
I've bought a Ms Brown necklace from Sugar & Vice to wear on the day, just in case anyone was in any doubt that I won't be changing my name.
We've chosen an amazing menu of vegan and veggie food for the party, booked a venue for a family brunch the morning of the wedding, and started putting deposits down.
Most importantly, we're continuing to talk and hone our ideas of what we want our celebration to be*, shaping it into something unique and special to us rather than blindly following tradition and ending up with an identikit day. For example, we were both really uncomfortable with the idea of arriving at the ceremony venue once everyone was seated and walking into a silent room, even if it was going to be together (*falls off chair laughing remembering when someone I used to work with asked me, "who's giving you away?"*). So instead we'll be there at the venue to greet everyone, to chat and say hello and enjoy the music our friends will be playing.
After the big day I will no doubt write in more detail about how we planned a budget wedding, but what I will say here is how bloody lucky we are to have so many talented friends. There's no way we could have managed to spend so little without having people like Laura, Jaye, Elle (who'll be making our cakes), Abby (one of my best friends, and a musician who'll be performing before the ceremony), and James (our photographer, and brother of Abby). I appreciate that most people don't have such expertise on hand - I mean, who just happens to know a wedding invitation designer, a bespoke cake maker, a wedding band, and a wedding photographer?!
* You can read here about why we've chosen a non-legal ceremony for our wedding celebration.